Inspiring
Inspiring They mean: thank God it’s not me. They mean: look how you smiled through it — I’d have crumbled. They mean: your life frightens me, so let me drape it in soft gold words I can walk away from. They see your wheelchair, your tic, your slurred word, your stillness or flinch and call it brave, as if your body were a war you chose to fight in. They say inspiring when you open a door, buy milk, laugh in the cinema, breathe without asking them first. They do not mean inspiring. They mean: I am uncomfortable, but I’ve been taught to smile at difference if it tries hard enough to be palatable. They mean: stay exceptional. Stay quiet about the cuts, the pain, the rage, the small cruelties we never have to notice. They mean: please let me feel kind without doing anything kind. But you — you wake up. You put on your shoes. You speak. You spill coffee. You kiss someone who loves you. You live. And none of that is for them.